To know when to go away and when to come closer is
the key to any lasting relationship. ~Doménico Cieri Estrada
The dynamism of
relationships through out our life is a very constant phenomenon. Any
relationship when it starts at any juncture of life has its own inherent value.
Provided the people involved in the relationship has the mind to understand the
depth. People here on earth live through their relative relationships only.
Relationships are relative as every individual relationship has different
meaning even to the peoples involved in it. For instance, in a marital
relationship the two individuals may be of same temperament (very rare or
almost impossible as two individuals are never alike) or may be of different
temperament which is very common. So the relationship itself retains different
level of need/understanding for the main two people involved in it. Likewise in
other relationship the same thing applies. The need, age factor, understanding,
dependency, depth, individual space, feelings, maturity etc may be of different
expectations and level for the people involved in the relationship.
There are many
perspectives of relationships. Relationships used to be of different value in
the past or for our senior people. Earlier whole aspect of any relationship used
to be different. The factors on which the foundation of any relationship based
used to be unlike present preconditions. The educational background used to
differ with the financial expectations in the past. The earning capacity, family
type, social environment, economic condition etc used to be much simple and
easier compared to present cut throat competitive world. The joint family
system used to be the reason of many benefits which today’s nuclear family
system don’t provide. There used to be much stronger emotional bonding between
the family members as well as social system compared to present world. Basically
relationships used to be deep rooted earlier compared to the present time.
There are
positive and negative sides if we compare the earlier state of relationships
and present state. Earlier the divorces, live-in-togethers, crèches, old age
homes etc used to be lesser compared to present time. Now these all are very
common. There are many positive sides like higher women literacy ratio with
service holder as well as women professionals are in higher trend. But the
economic independence is also one of the many reasons of countless negative
effects like the rise in divorces etc. Divorce affects the concerned family,
spouses and if there are children then its worse. Now there is hardly any
sector of profession/occupation which is left to the men alone. But the crime
ratio is also alarmingly in higher trend.
Any relationship
for matter of fact goes through a tremendous change process with time and this
does not matter whether it is needed by the persons concerned or not. But this
change process in all kinds of relationship is kind of a default setting or set
in auto mode to be specific. It does not depend on the willingness of the people
concerned in the relation. We all experience the change in the relationship
with our own parents from the time we used to be babies then kid then the time
we are gown up people. First we are dependent on our parents and then one time
comes when they become dependent on us. So this is a very clear cycle of the
particular parent –children relationship. But there is always a change cycle in
every relationship. With time as the maturity level of people grows up the
level and depth of relationship should also grow. Some times maturity and in-dependency/dependency factor may lead to distances or closeness in
relationships as people involved may realize that their priority and choice is
different. Lucky are those people in a relationship who has the same level of mental
temperament.
The dynamic
attribute of any relationship may be a source of appeal even for the
relationship itself. A predictable and monotonous manner in any kind of
relationship may lead to distances to the people concerned. But a warm and
positive random approach in any relationship leads to a strong bond therein for
the individuals. Little surprises, expressions, emotions can lead to a sea
change in all kind of relationship. Many a times people do not express the
depth and meaning of a relationship in their life for some silly reason like
ego, self-esteem etc. But when the particular relationship goes through a
difficult phase then only the negative value of all egos, anger, self-esteem
etc is felt but then sometimes it may be too late to realize the mistake.
So when we are
in a relationship we must value the depth and positive influence of it in our
life. Everybody plays different role of daughter, mother, sister, wife, friend,
Aunty, Student, teacher etc in case of Women and husband, son, brother, friend,
Uncle etc in case of Men. There may be numerous relationships maintained by the
same person to different people and the value of each may differ. But one
should try to prioritize the value of relationship and act accordingly for a
more simple and meaningful life. One should always remember that it is very
easy to break a relationship but it’s hard to retain the same. It’s easy to
build a new relationship but too difficult to restore a broken relationship. So
before breaking a relationship one should think the value of it in life and
should put hundred percent efforts to retain it as PEOPLE LIVES ONLY THROUGH RELATIONSHIP in this world. A dead person also lives in this world through the
memory of the family/relatives/friends long after the death. A warm and
affectionate relationship goes a long way.
So the enthusiasm
of every relationship we have should strengthen us for the most colorful days
on this beautiful world. The natural relationship like our immediate family
which we do not choose should also be cherished as added warmth makes a lot of
difference to make life more beautiful. Some times a negative incidence makes
us aware the value of relationship more then any positive time. To extract the
positive out of negative situation is the secret of strength in the dynamism of
relationship.
The clandestine
magic of any relationship is the zing of life which if understood is the main
essence to live on. People who can keep up to the dynamics of any relationship itself
for them, world as well as life as a whole is easier and much exciting to enjoy.
Let us enjoy our relationship more to live more even after our death……!!!!!!
